When I look in the mirror, I know who I am, but society makes it difficult to understand who I am, because I was born to immigrants of Nigerian origin and I'm a first generation American. , this term is sometimes used loosely. Looking at my name they assume I'm from an island, but I'm so quick to tell them that "I'm Nigerian" there's normally another statement that follows. “You don’t have an accent.” I wonder if I had an accent, would I be considered Nigerian and not American? then I say that "My parents are Nigerian" and then it changes, so for them I'm just associated with Nigerian culture that doesn't make me a Nigerian, there have been a lot of discussions between my friends who are like me confused as for what defines us in general, who can say who you are? Are we not the ones who define who we are? This is my journey through my life, how I deciphered what I am. Who defines what it means to be Nigerian or American? Is it the color of my skin, the way I speak, the type of hair I have? Maybe it's my circumstances or my nature that determines if I'm Nigerian, when I was younger these questions come up so many times, I just say I'm African American; but they say “You are the real African”. What does all this mean and why is society allowed to define who I am culturally. “First generation Haitian-American. Our parents are either trying to fully assimilate or create pocket communities. There was a class system among them, so they generally stuck to their "social class", which is primarily an economic caste system, but also, to a lesser extent, a matter of color (which was more a problem in our parents' generation). I ... was discriminated against at school because I was Haitian, as a result, I refused to go ... in the middle of a sheet ...... in the middle, and we asks me to choose, but the truth is you don't have to really choose. “Food and language are an important part of a person's cultural identity as well as life lived in foreign countries” (Onyekwe, 2000.). The only choice you have is to be genuine or to be counterfeit. You can't choose where you were born, what ethnicity you belong to, what language your parents spoke to you in when you were a child. I can only be who I am, accept who I am and I don't have to apologize for who I am. There is a saying that says "You are what you eat", it's true because one day I will eat Fufu with stew, or pizza with Buffalo chicken and fries, I have to understand that the America is already foreign, because of the many immigrants who settle to make the next generations better than what they had and to continue the growing population of culture.