Self-EsteemContingencies of Self-Esteem describe people who are selective about the areas on which they base their self-esteem . Three studies were carried out by EJ Horberg and Serena Chen of the University of California at Berkley on significant others and the contingencies of self-esteem. Three studies tested the activation and consequences of self-esteem contingencies associated with specific significant others, that is, relationship-specific self-esteem contingencies. The results showed that activating the mental representation of a significant other with whom one is very fond or close allows participants to risk their self-esteem in areas in which the significant other wanted them to. they excel. This was demonstrated in terms of self-reported contingencies of self-esteem (Study 1), in terms of self-esteem after receiving feedback on successful or unsatisfactory performance in a relationship-specific contingency domain (Study 2 ) and in terms of feelings of low self-esteem after thinking about failure in a relationship-specific contingency domain (Study 3). In all studies, various areas of urgency were examined. Furthermore, Study 3 showed that failure in a relationship-specific activated contingency domain had negative implications for current feelings of closeness and acceptance in the relationship with the significant other. Overall, the results suggest that people's self-esteem contingencies depend on that particular social situation and that performance in relationship-specific contingency areas can influence people's ideas about their relationships (Holberg and Chen, 2010). Contingencies related to self-esteem and self-esteem can have an effect on one's pursuit of goals. Goal Pursuit It is believed throughout the social psychology community that sig...... middle of paper ......ry. It is certain that a person's interpersonal and intrapersonal thoughts, experiences, and opinions shape his or her self. Relationships between close people seem to have the most influential effects on oneself. Therefore, the relational self could be defined as the self experienced in relation to significant others in a person's life. Future research on this topic could examine the relevance of the relational self to other psychological constructs such as parental and peer attachment. The strength of the relationship would influence the actual magnitude of the effect. It would also be interesting to possibly study negative attitudes toward significant others and the transference that occurs within these relationships. Examples: rebellious teenagers and their parents, family members who have been arguing for a long time, neighbors or co-workers..