We live in a society where human sexuality seems to be in chaos. Sexually transmitted diseases are epidemic. Teenage pregnancies are skyrocketing. Distinctions between the sexes have become blurred. The merits of teaching abstinence are debated. The consequences of not teaching abstinence are dire. Virginity is often ridiculed. In the midst of this confusion, the Song of Solomon sets out a fundamental principle for lovers. Three times he gives the exhortation “Do not stir up or awaken love until it is willing.” (Cantician 2:7; 3:5; 8:4). In this way, the poem recognizes that the erotic passions of youth may be aroused before a truly committed relationship is established. Biblical love requires commitment. He delights in the gift of sexual pleasure, but the sexual relationship takes place in the only context worthy of it, marriage. Marriage, a bond in which both parties grow together and are enriched emotionally and spiritually, as well as physically. Sex is therefore a jewel that must await the right setting. As our culture shows, it is perilous to arouse passion before that framework has been created. With God's help, anyone can remain chaste and allow sexual intercourse while awaiting marriage. But is premarital sex a bad thing if a couple truly loves each other, is faithful, and ends up getting married anyway? Premarital sex is still considered fornication and is a mortal sin against the sixth commandment. A truly loving couple wants what is best for each other, individually and as a couple. If a couple truly loves each other and wants the other to be healthy, they will mutually avoid what is harmful and dangerous to their health. God chose to make man male and female and give him power. .... middle of paper ...... well-being. Premarital sex is not an act of love, it is an act of selfishness since there is no total or definitive commitment as there is in marriage. Sex before or outside marriage devalues ​​the sacred act of contractual love and transforms it into a purely biological process aimed at producing pleasure. It essentially becomes mutual masturbation, since the sexual act becomes more important than the person one is having sex with. You are jeopardizing the spiritual and moral health of someone you claim to love just so you can sleep with them. Making sacrifices is what lovers do for each other. Parents sacrifice themselves for their children. If one or both people in a relationship are not willing to sacrifice and wait until the wedding night to have legitimate sex, then they are saying that the relationship and the other person are not worth the sacrifice and to abstain..