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  • Essay / Jealousy and Self-Conception - 1318

    Jealousy is an intrinsically relational phenomenon that is considered a multidimensional experience, composed of cognitive, emotional, and coping behaviors (Aylor, 2004; Fleischmann et. al, 2005; Pfeiffer and Wong, 1989; Jealousy typically occurs when there is a potential threat or actual loss of a valued relationship between self and other due to a real or imagined rival for one's partner's attention (DeSteno & Salovey, 1996; Fleischmann et. al, 2005; , 1989; White, 1981; White and Mullen, 1989). These real or perceived threats cause individuals to feel and respond differently to jealousy, as most researchers believe that jealousy is not a single emotion, but a combination of internal and external negative emotions. Some people may internally feel pain, anger, and fear over the loss or deterioration of an important relationship (Aylor, 2004; Pfeiffer and Wong, 1989; Strom and Aune, 2008; White and Mullen, 1989). ; while other people may experience external manifestations of jealousy, such as crying, fighting back, leaving, resorting to surveillance, or even becoming aggressive (Fleischmann et. al, 2005). Although jealousy manifests itself in various forms and levels of intensity, it always results from an interaction between predispositions and a triggering event. An individual's response to jealousy may be direct or indirect depending on the severity of the relational threat posed by a potential rival. (Bevan and Tidgewell, 2009; Theiss and Solomon, 2006). Serious relationship problems often require direct communication to resolve the problem. Direct responses often involve approaching the partner or rival during face-to-face communication. For example, a jealous partner may approach the rival to discuss a relationship and create feelings of unease or anxiety, both of which can lead to decreased intimacy. Therefore, individuals can take steps to reduce uncertainty and improve their relationship with their partner. A fourth goal is to reevaluate the relationship that occurs when individuals experience dissatisfaction in their relationship, so that they can reexamine the relationship by weighing the costs and benefits attributed to the relationship. The final proposed cognitive goal is to restore fairness through retaliation and appears when partners in inequitable relationships participate in behaviors motivated by the need to restore fairness in the relationship (e.g., tactics that equalize the score). Understanding the impact of these cognitive goals on the experience of jealousy is an essential first step in understanding how an individual will express jealous behaviors...