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    The “Middle Ages” was the period used to describe Europe between the fall of Rome and the start of the Renaissance. It was a time of massive social change, rebellion and conflict, which allowed new ideas to emerge. However, during this phase, women continued to be inferior to the male sex, leaving their hopes and aspirations only in marriage. Unlike today, marriage was arranged and was only for political or monetary reasons. Marriage for love was unheard of and women had to maintain their chastity in order to be respected. Nevertheless, the medieval era gave birth to what is today the most romantic and tragic love story in history. The text became known under the title: The Letters of Abelard and Héloïse in which Peter Abelard and Héloïse tell the story and results of their passionate affair between teacher and student. The most important theme throughout this book was the continuing view of love and marriage between beloved couples, which led to their separation. Although Abelard and Héloïse were inevitably in love, the discovery of their love affair and Abelard's castration was reason enough to change their views on love and marriage. In Pierre Abélard's first letter (Historia Calamitatum) to a friend, Abélard confesses that he has sought to interact with Héloïse since the time he spoke to Fulbert about Héloïse's education. At the start of their relationship, the couple seemed extremely in love and unconcerned about what might happen. In an excerpt from The Lost Love Letters of Heloise and Abélard: Perception of Dialogue in Twelfth Century France translated by Constant Mews, we see Héloïse expressing her passionate love, “just as fire cannot be extinguished or suppressed by any partner. » .... middle of paper ...... In Abelard's fifth letter to Héloïse, Abelard mentions the following: "as you were once the wife of a poor mortal and now you are brought up to bed of a great king. By the privilege of this honor you are placed not only over your former husband, but also over all the servants of this king” (Radice 73). In this quote, Abelard explains that Héloïse has become his superior since she must devote herself to God only. Marriage is no longer a selfish act on Abelard's part but a struggle of repentance. However, he considers marriage to be a sacred bond, which is why Abelard affirms, referring to God: “He did not buy you with his wealth, but with himself. He bought and redeemed you with his own blood” (Radice 86). In this case, Abelard hesitates to explain that carnal love should not exist between him and Héloïse but only exist in God, because it is God who truly loved Héloïse and not him..